Life Lived, Fully.

Living fully through experiences, intentional moments and the art of cocktail culture.

Oh hi, you're here! I am CoCo Ren, and I am delighted you have found my little nook of the internet. Now that you're here, let's get to know each other. Like a lot of humans, I have interests in many things, but the overall feeling of it all is to make myself happy and to be fulfilled. We cannot expect for others to fulfill us, or to make us happy. That is our job, it is a personal journey and no one else can do that for you.

Story Time

When I was a young twenty-something, I had my first apartment. And I remember sitting in my apartment one Saturday night, bored and trying to figure out what I could do. I reached out to all my friends and everyone was either already busy or didn't respond. So I sat there, bored and disappointed. It was in this moment that I decided I needed to get out of my comfort zone, and learn to start going to places and events by myself. Now, as someone who has overcome being painfully shy to an introverted adult, the thought of going out alone, without knowing anyone there terrified me. But my desire to get out of boredom, and go do something I would enjoy overpowered being terrified.

So the next weekend, I got myself together and told myself I'm going to go to Drinks Houston. Now, if you're from Houston, you know how ridiculously big this place was. My plan (and yes, I needed a plan so I didn't talk myself out of it) was to get a drink and just walk around. I told myself, "don't stay still for too long and look like a 'loser' in the club by herself." And also, as a woman, for safety reasons, appearing as if you were moving around with somewhere to be (i.e. to find your friends) makes you less of a target. So I did this for about 3 weekends in a row, but packed clubs aren't my scene. It was my hair stylist at the time, who then encouraged me to find events and places that actually do interest me. And that's what I did. From then on, I researched the internet and found communities of interest in my city. From art, to live music, theatre, karaoke, etc. And when I left my house, I was looking forward to going to these spaces, because they were spaces that I enjoyed and when I left I was happy and fulfilled. That feeling helped me get over being uncomfortable. As I frequented certain spaces, I got to know people and made new friends. Since then, I vowed I would never miss out on something I want to do because no one was available to go with me.

It's Not About Them!

And that brings me to who I am today. I have met some amazing people and artists, and have been to countless venues in the city (the name changes, but the venues are the same.) I now make plans without a thought of, "who can come with me" or "who all gon be there?" Because I don't care, I know I'M going to have a good time regardless. Through this journey I have learned, and fully believe, we are meant to be on this earth to live our lives, to the fullest. Not overworked, not stressed, not pleasing everyone else. Finding ourselves and what fulfills us is a journey, and we're always growing and evolving. With this blog, I will share my journey as I navigate the spaces and people who fulfill me, and share it with you. I hope you are inspired to find what fulfills you too. And if you already know what fulfills you, share it with me in the comments!

If you're like me, and only care to leave your house for a guaranteed good time, add yourself to my list and we'll fulfill ourselves, together!

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