Letting Go to Make Space for What Serves You

This weekend, my friend and I spent a lot of time in her closet. She was ready for a wardrobe refresh, and in some ways, ready to shed old versions of herself.

I was reminded of a recent conversation I had with a long-time friend. One of those necessary, but heavy conversations. Upon reflection, I realized that while the friendship has lasted for years, it was not giving the emotional reciprocity I’ve learned to value.

For most of my life, I didn’t feel like I needed much from my friends. I just enjoyed their company and spending time with them. But as life got harder, and I started to need more than laughter and good vibes, I realized I didn’t have the support I needed. It’s no one’s fault. We all grow. We all get busy. But we make time for what we value, and it became clear I wasn’t valued in the spaces that once brought me so much joy. That was difficult to sit with.

But in choosing myself, pouring into me and filling my own cup, I found space for something better. The universe has a way of answering with abundance. People began to show up in my life, in beautiful ways, ways that I didn’t know I needed. They listened, they reassured me, they celebrated my small wins, they poured into me.

I was raised to be independent, but life lessons taught me to be hyper-independent. That became my norm, and I didn’t realize I wasn’t experiencing the nurture of allowing someone to be there for you when life gets hard. Through a lot of internal work, I’ve accepted some friendships are meant to evolve, or even end. And that’s ok. In letting go of what didn’t serve me, I’ve created space that has been filled with love, reciprocity and genuine connection.  

Now that my friend has let go of clothes that held memories, we’re going to add new articles into her closet. We’re both stepping into new chapters that are ready for something more aligned.